How do I "put myself out there"?

2021.11.29 21:49 throwawayacc117007 How do I "put myself out there"?

I'm 22 and have never had a relationship. I've been told on several occasions that there's "nothing wrong with me" and I just need to "put myself out there". How do I do this.
I've pretty much done nothing but work for years so if I don't meet new at work, I simply don't meet anyone new. I've been told to try online dating but I'm far to shy for that. Other that that I genuinely don't know what to do.
I have no idea where people my age go to meet people other than bars and clubs, and thoosr really aren't my kinda thing. All of my hobbies don't involve leaving the house, so unless I'm working, I just don't go anywhere.
Even though I'm not the best at socialising, I'm not completely good awful. I can manage to hold a conversation well enough buy tend to run out of things to tall about when the topic switches too me.
Listening to what other people say and just starting dating sounds great, and it sounds like it should be simple, but I have absolutely no idea.
Any advice would be great
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2021.11.29 21:49 Aekartzdef Anon Goes To War

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2021.11.29 21:49 NMLWrightReddit If you insist on calling people doing any group following behavior “sheep”, the aren’t we all sheep?

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2021.11.29 21:49 GuyLigan Who would you choose and why?

Long story short i played apex season1 and left the game. Now i decided at season 11 to try it again and got addicted. I only have the og legends and was woundering hat legend the community would recommend to go for fist (i mean getting a new legend)
I mostly play bang or blood
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2021.11.29 21:49 kimiyohoshi I'd rather this boulder flattened me if you're not there to help roll it uphill

Nobody ever accused me of being mature, but I’m trying to be. I took your advice, I.: I feel hurt, getting back at you would be the easiest thing to do. Now that I’ve acknowledged all that, the next step is to take a measured approach instead of making another rash decision that’ll lead to me perpetuating the cycle of abuse. The thing is, when things calm down, I’m still left—still consumed by guilt over my actions and all the venomous invectives I let loose at you.
 
I could step back a bit and wait until our emotions cool, you told me your therapist advised you go that route, and if that’s what they recommend then its merit isn’t in doubt. However, I don’t even bring much to the table the way our relationship is now, and I’m pretty sure being even more unavailable won’t do me any favors. I’m scared of losing you; I have to keep taking a shot in the dark every time we’re in crisis and hope you respond favorably.
 
I’m a cynic. I keep touting all these high-minded beliefs but I’m aware, just as you are, that I don’t really have the intellectual ability to actually defend my skewed worldview. Still, my falsely-assured recalcitrance would have me believe that sets of heritable genes—the way these interplay in staggeringly complex ways that still have yet to be fully understood and mapped out by geneticists—have absolute dominion over an individual’s personality through the entirety of their existence. Some would argue I could always turn to regulatorily approved medication to curb my debilitating compulsions—at least allow myself to be rid of bad habits, of negatively-enforcing behaviors, that have held me back from fully living my life like any normal person should. I don’t know if it’s cowardice, but I’m an overly cautious person: I don’t want to potentially incur side-effects like major organ damage that won’t manifest until later in life; maybe I might suffer a fatally adverse reaction that is beyond medical advances’ capability to remedy decisively and in time. I know nothing in life is a sure thing, but there’s just too many maybes for me to just leap headfirst and hope everything works out for the best. It comes down to tempering one’s responses when put under pressure, doesn’t it? No matter how exemplary my reactions may be under duress, it still doesn’t dull, doesn’t cancel out the pain and the dread and the frustration I’m exposed to—that I’ve gone through. I put myself in your shoes with this in mind and I really can’t fault you at times like this when you’ve run out of patience with me, which has thus far been temporary. I’m sorry I made you feel like I take that for granted.
 
When I overthink, my mind goes to places, reaches conclusions that urge me to “take proactive action”. I delude myself into thinking I’m in the right to do the things I’m about to do—that this is the best means of correcting a grievance based on my internal calculus. We’re supposed to be in this together and it’s so disappointing when I lose sight of that. It’s insulting to people who are actually going through addiction, but I’m having a tough time dealing with how you’ve reduced your presence in ways I can easily see and keep track of. It started when you took longer and longer to reply on Telegram, until you stopped replying altogether the first time I blocked you. Now you’ve drastically scaled back your Reddit activity and even your listening activity on Spotify: Collectively, these did so much to comfort me throughout my lowest points. They really meant a lot to me. They continue to mean a lot to me right now, and it’s agonizing for you to just take all of it away even if I know there’s an underlying purpose, a practical logic to your actions. …I think it’s safe to assume that a part of you finds satisfying redress in paying back the torment caused by my infidelity.
 
I also know you love me and this is your way of giving me the space I need—even if it’s a hard pill for me to swallow—so I can sort out my life and I can have a chance to care for you better than the half-measures I limitedly provide at present. It’s my ego: my fear of being abandoned that leads me to think you’ll step out on me at the drop of a hat even before I foolishly actually did that to you. You caught a glimpse of it when I could no longer contain my paranoia over the phone calls I imagined you were having. At the time it really wasn’t my business whether those were innocuous, platonic, or intimate. Paradoxically enough, I wouldn’t feel this way—wouldn’t foolishly, spectacularly self-sabotage—if I didn’t put you first; I’m so scared of losing you and the indescribable pain that would arise from such an occurrence that I stupidly, preemptively toyed with women’s emotions and expectations to futilely lessen the impact this could possibly have on me. I realized too late it was all just one, big fool’s errand: I’ve never had to carry this kind of guilt before, and I’m desperately trying to earn back your trust and there’s a real possibility I’ll never gain it back.
 
There’s two different ways of coping, two dueling mindsets continually rending my focus and slowly sapping my will to live. I’m trying so hard to stay positive, to pay no mind to intrusive thoughts eating away at all the good will I continuously shore up on a day-to-day basis. It kills not knowing which one will win out.
 
What if your patience permanently runs out this time? What if someone better comes along who exceeds your personal standards? What if you’re already over me and all this is an especially cruel, elaborate, protracted plan set in motion to ultimately get back at me? What if you were never interested in me in the first place and you were just playing me all along, from the very beginning? Am I not dominant enough for you? Do you think I’m a pushover and regarding me accordingly? What if one of your exes got back in contact with you? Would you drop me just like that? Chalk it up to a learning experience—the onus, the burden of moving on to be shouldered entirely by myself? What if one day you decide I’m not worth it, cut your losses, and move on with your life so suddenly? Not even caring enough to at least tell me your reasons for doing so… I don’t know if you’re inclined to address any of that, if you disapprove of having to fend off all these questions you find to be unreasonable, if it’ll end up as more fodder with which to stamp on my barely-held-together self-esteem.
 
You didn’t ask specifically ask me to do it, but it’s up to me to end your streak of heartbreaks, and I hope you give me the chance to make good on such a monumental promise, a responsibility not to be taken lightly, over and over for the rest of your life. I have to shake off my self-pity and get back to working on myself because it’s likely a lot of those worries I mentioned play across your mind as well and it’s killing two birds with one stone to reach all my stepping stones on my way to you, my ultimate goal, and isn’t it bitterly ironic that what it takes to put all our hang-ups in the rear-view mirror is bridging the ever-shifting, oftentimes insurmountable gap which keeps torturously separating us time and time again?
 
I love you, I. Hope you’re reading this. ⨂
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2021.11.29 21:49 warforge2004 Best tips for new characters (alts and general tips)

I jumped back in with New Horizons and still enjoy the game but now really want to start some me alts. My old trickster is ok but I know they can be the toughest to run and I never got the best handle so now a Pyro or maybe Techno or Dev. So what are everyone's best tips for making alts? I know taking some spare loot into the bank for gear mod farming helps. Nothing like a low lvl running a Tier 2 or 3 gear mod, but what else do y'all do?
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2021.11.29 21:49 snizlag When will the wolves be fixed?

I know this isn't big in the grand scheme of what is wrong with the game but it is really irritating. Any harvestable wolf (other than skinning) is currently bugged and non-harvestable. The wydrwood wolves used to be solid training and resources but now nothing happens when you try and chop them. As far as I can tell, this has been broken for ~2 weeks + and I would have thought such a simple thing to fix.
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2021.11.29 21:49 Mission-Rub-3844 Should I transfer to another MBA/MPH program?

I am in my first semester of a dual-degree MBA (Masters of Business Administration)/MPH (Masters of Public Health) program and am underwhelmed. I'm wondering if I should apply to other schools.
I moved to the city my school was located for a job seven months ago. I had intentions of applying to an MBA/MPH program in a few years but applied to my program literally 2 weeks after finding out about it because it was close, and I could complete the degrees without loans (thanks to my job). It's a state university in the Midwest - the MBA program is unranked, and MPH is ranked in the low 50s. My UG is from a top 20 school.
I started in August but realize now that the school is only regionally respected and I don't feel challenged in the program. After looking at LinkedIn of people who graduated from the same program, their careers are not as ambitious as I'd like mine to be. When I applied to the program, I was not informed about how much the school you obtain your MBA from matters.
I'm not sure if I will stay in the area upon graduation, but I want to ensure that my degrees can be respected if I move to another part of the country. I have a remote, part-time research assistantship at one of the top public health schools, which I hope can help me resume-wise, along with my full-time job and previous job (healthcare) experiences. Luckily, my part-time assistantship is through one of the schools I'm considering. My position can be converted to a graduate assistantship if I'm accepted and enrolled in the school.
I have varied interests and am looking to go into healthcare consulting, pharmaceutical, or biotech. I am also interested in potentially going to get a PhD in health policy/management. I realize that most employees in big 4 consulting firms, pharm, and biotech have degrees from top business schools.
The huge benefit of my current program is obviously that I can graduate with two degrees without any debt. The programs I am thinking about switching to have steep tuition prices (ex. $135k for 2 years at Hopkins), but I also understand another school's prestige and network can provide a much higher earning potential.
Is it worth it for me to apply to another MBA/MPH program? If I stay in my current program, do I still have the potential to make $150k after graduation like those from other schools? If I stay, is there anything I can do to make myself more desirable in the fields I want to go into?
Other MBA/MPH programs I'm thinking of applying to:
- UMichigan, Johns Hopkins, UC Berkeley, Yale, Emory, Columbia, University of Minnesota, UNC, UCLA, Dartmouth, Yale
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2021.11.29 21:49 Gloomy-Employment-72 Having trouble with your Fellow Atmos

I've bought three in the last week from the Fellow store on Amazon, and none have been able to pull a vacuum. Returned one and after getting a replacement that also didn't work, I sent a note to Fellow and got this response...
Eric (Fellow)
Nov 29, 2021, 16:19 PST
Hey there!
I am sorry about to hear that your Atmos is not sealing as expected! We've identified an issue with a small batch of lids, but recently received a shipment of new lids from our factory.
We identified a defect in a sealing component with process control at our supplier. The process has been updated and the new lids will get your Atmos back to its coffee protecting perfection.
Please respond to this email confirming the following, and I will process the replacement order ASAP:

  1. Shipping address
  2. Lid Color
  3. How many lids
Thanks for your patience while we resolve this issue.
Cheers, Eric
So, if you've got a Fellow Atmos with a defective lid I'd hit them up and get a replacement.
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2021.11.29 21:49 Winter-Fennel810 Landed a great job but the person training me has been AWOL. What are some tips for teaching myself the job?

I got a great job I honestly didn't expect to get, and it's clear there are a lot more responsibilities than my prior job, so I really don't want to mess up.
However, it's my third week on the job and the person who's "training" me, my direct manager, is constantly busy. Like my position was created solely to help ease her workload, yet almost every meeting she tells me to book with her, with her, myself and others, gets cancelled, moved, etc. Her schedule is so packed that there's hardly even opportunity to move that meeting elsewhere.
She's really nice but she talks about a mile a minute and there's no room to ask her questions to make sure I understand because she just doesn't stop talking. There's a lot of talking but not a lot of actual instruction. On two occasions I've noticed she seems to forget what she tells me, one regarding her schedule and the other regarding instructions about a task.
While I'm really happy to have this job, I'm feeling a bit like I'm swimming out in the ocean with no life jacket. I have a vague idea of what I'm doing but not much clue exactly what doing it entails, especially for the Very Important Tasks where the meetings keep getting pushed off. I would love to start working on more projects but I also feel like the instructions are rushed, vague, and she's very busy so there's not much opportunity to even ask her questions in person.
She has also mentioned that the work she does and that I'll be doing can be confidential and so to be wary of asking others for help, which sort of puts me between a rock and a hard place.
Does anyone have any tips for training yourself?
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Throwaway, been thinking about running away for a while as my life has taken a turn for the worst. I will most likely leave my household or get kicked out. That could happen any day and I am getting as prepared as possible. I don't have anyone I can talk to about this or reach out for help to. I don't know what I'll do once I'm out. I have a little bit of money saved for gas and food that can last for a short time. Any advice would be great.
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