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He didn't tell me he is infertile and I think this created a misunderstanding

2022.01.23 20:47 bathroomcypher He didn't tell me he is infertile and I think this created a misunderstanding

I (f/37) used to date this guy (m/36) last year, for about 6 months. Great chemistry, great dates, lots of laughter and mutual interests. At the time we were dating, he was still very hurt from his previous one and did everything in his power to avoid getting too close (from awkwardly distant goodbyes after every date to not wanting to sleep with me even if it meant going back home just for the night etc), also explictly mentioning that he didn't want to fall in love with me because he feared being hurt again.
During our first dates he casually often mentioned how he didn't want to have kids and how he found it useless to build a family. I, thinking he was just a bit too strict, always replied that having kids would have been great. In reality, I'm not someone who really cares about becoming a biological mother (or a mother at all tbh), but I just don't have a negative view of parenthood. Now I understand all these casual mentions of kids were blind tests he was throwing at me to see if we could match.
He never explicitly said he was infertile, but I have a reasonable suspect he is. He had varicocele surgery which is a risk factor + mentioned his ex wanted kids and "could never have them from him" thus she broke up with him.
Unfortunately I came to this conclusion right after our breakup, when he probably was already convinced that someday I wanted my kids. I also understand why he never said explicitly that he couldn't have kids: it's way to easy to say "oh no worries" during the first dates only to change one mind when the relationship is going.
I think this misunderstanding played a role in the fact that he didn't want to get too close and in the fact that he suddenly backed off. One night he called me in tears saying that he wanted to break up because "he would never fall for me and even if he did I would leave him someday". I tried my best to talk him out of his pessimism but what could I do? I eventually accepted his choice.
After the breakup he still kept in touch daily for a month or so, until I found out he slept with someone I knew (the owner of a bakery where I go often, in my area, which is also super far from where he lives). I know we weren't together and he didn't owe me anything. I know he had his right to hook up after our breakup but I still found that since we live in a 4b people city, he could have found someone else to rebound and not someone I was likely meeting on a monthly to weekly basis. I felt hurt and got angry at him.
We had a terrible argument I am still very ashamed of. He tried to apologize and broke up with her in an attempt to calm me down. I apologized for lashing out but still asked him not to contact me anymore. We cried (again, lol) on the phone and ended things. This was in March.
Spring and summer passed, I was dating someone else but he somehow stayed in my mind.
I only contacted him once to wish him a happy birthday in August. He replied right in like 0.3 secs and tried to keep the conversation going.
I contacted him again in October and we started chatting on Telegram. To my surprise, conversation went on easily for like 6 hours until late night.
One week later I texted him again, and bluntly asked him out for a casual drink. He replied that he felt "he couldn't be just a friend to me" and that he wanted to avoid meeting me as he didn't want "any tense situations" (translating into English).
Oh well, what could I do. I said ok, deleted his contact and tried my best to let him go.
My birthday comes in December and guess who is the first one texting me happy birthday right after midnight? The guy. I thank him but still don't keep the convo going.
He texts again two days later just for a chat. And he texts again one week later as he found out I had a gig at a local venue and wanted to ask if I was okay with him coming over to see me.
He came over, which meant we met each other in person after all this time. He was super affectionate, met all my friends, shot videos of every song I played, gave me his gloves as it was freezing cold. What a sweet one. The day after I finally realize that I'm actually very in love with the guy and that I probably was since spring.
Seeing him there with me, most of my friends (and even me) thought he changed his mind to some extent and expected him to ask me out.
But he didn't ask me out and doesn't respond to my (few and shy) hints to meet in person.
He contacts me online with what seem to be silly excuses just to reach out. Our conversations are very lighthearted, mostly about mutual interests or politics. Nothing "personal" or too deep. No talking about "us" or about other people or about relationships. Nada.
I know that he is a very insecure / shy guy and also definitely someone who gets easily scared by anything in life, so I'm very divided between waiting for him to eventually feel safe and make a move and just forcing some talk.
My initial idea was to meet him IRL to casually mention that "having kids" misunderstanding and clarify it in the sweetest way possible. Maybe it's me being too optimistic but I can't keep out of my head the idea that he backed off out of fear of me leaving him someday for his infertility. But meeting IRL doesn't seem an option as he already declined going out for a drink. Let alone if I told him "let's meet because we need to talk".
So, how can I manage it? Do I let this whole situation go on until we hopefully meet again? Do I just tell him what needs to be told by text or email?
I don't want to give him up unless I'm sure that he really doesn't want me because of me, and not because of some fear he projects on me that doesn't even match my reality.
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